Is now a good time to talk?
With physical distance being an essential part of life these days, emotional connection is beginning to appear just as important. The world and its people are feeling things we’ve never felt and battling what it means to be emotional. So, now seems like the perfect time to talk.
What are emotions, exactly?
Emotions are our body’s natural response to stimuli. They are primal and instinctual. They exist in order to send you messages, feelings. Although it may not always seem that way, feelings are on your team. They are waiting in your corner ready to keep you informed and safe. Imagine: You’re in the woods and come across a bear. Boom. Instinctually your emotions kick in. You feel scared and run. This situation highlights the important role fear plays in letting you know when it’s time to protect yourself. In order for feelings to work for you, they have to be felt (not just the good ones) … more on that later.
So, what’s important to know?
Imagine: You’re feeling down. We all know that feeling.
So, how do you manage emotions in a healthy way?
- Notice when a feeling starts to surface.
- Name the feeling. Be as specific as possible.
- Identify if it’s a problem and if it’s solvable or not.
- If yes, begin identifying small steps to solve the problem.
- If not, give yourself space to feel. If you don’t have space right now, you can schedule some time later to feel (yes, schedule if you have to). During your time, be easy on yourself. Be present without judgement.